How to Get Along With People
Ann Landers (real name Eppie
Lederer) was a
syndicated advice columnist, based in Chicago, who was well
known for the
excellent, helpful advice
she gave to people over the decades.
Her advice covered a wide range of topics from marital
problems, to drug abuse, to everyday annoyances and
Here is an excerpt from a piece of advice she gave to a reader
on how to get along with people.
If you adapt these ten points to your
interactions with others, you can't go wrong. Enjoy!
The Points From Ann Landers:
- Keep skid chains on your tongue; always say less than you
think. Cultivate a low, persuasive voice. How you say it counts more
than what you say.
- Make promises sparingly, and keep them faithfully, no
matter what it costs.
- Never let an opportunity pass to say a kind and encouraging
word to or about somebody. Praise good work, regardless of who did it.
If criticism is needed, criticize helpfully, never spitefully.
- Be interested in others, their pursuits, their work, their
homes and families. Make merry with those who rejoice; with those who
weep, mourn. Let everyone you meet, however humble, feel that you
regard him as a person of importance.
- Be cheerful. Don't burden or depress those around you by
dwelling on your minor aches and pains and small disappointments.
Remember, everyone is carrying some kind of a load.
- Keep an open
mind. Discuss but don't argue. It is a mark of a superior
mind to be able to disagree without being disagreeable.
- Let your virtues speak for themselves. Refuse to talk of
another's vices. Discourage gossip. It is a waste of valuable time and
can be extremely destructive.
- Be careful of another's feelings. Wit and humor
at the other person's expense are rarely worth it and may hurt when
- Pay no attention to ill-natured remarks about you.
Remember, the person who carried the message may not be the most
accurate reporter in the world. Simply live so that nobody will believe
them. Disordered nerves and bad digestion are a common cause of
- Don't be too anxious about the credit due you. Do your
best, and be patient.
Forget about yourself, and let others "remember". Success
is much sweeter that way.
Excellent advice for all of us!
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