The "personality" is the typical pattern of thinking,
feeling, and behaviors that make a person unique.
When we say that someone has a "good personality" we mean
that they are likeable, interesting and pleasant to be with.
Everyone wants to be attractive to others. Having a good
personality helps - probably even more so than good looks.
While we can improve our looks to only a certain extent, we can
work on improving the personality as much as we want.
Here are some ways in which we can
accomplish this:
Be a better listener.
Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis was considered one of the most
charming women in the world because she cultivated the skill of
being an exceptional listener. She was known for the way she would look a person in the eyes,
hang on their every word, and make them feel important. There is
nothing more appealing than having
someone listen to you intently making you feel like you're
the only person in the world.
Read more and expand your interests.
The more you read and cultivate new interests, the more interesting
you are to others. When you meet new people it gives you the opportunity to
share what you know and to exchange your views with them.
Be a good conversationalist.
This relates to how much you read and know. Once you have
much to contribute, learn how to talk about it with others. No one
can read about or know everything, so it's refreshing to learn from
others those things we
don't have the time to about read ourselves. If you happen to be
shy, join a
group like Toastmasters that encourages you to talk about what you
know.
Have an Opinion.
There is nothing more tiresome than trying to talk to
someone who has no opinion on anything. A conversation has nowhere
to go if you have nothing to expound on. If, however, you have an
uncommon point of view or differing opinion, you are more interesting and stimulating to
be in the company of (unless you're a know-it-all, of course).
A unique outlook
expands everyone's perspective.
Meet New People.
Make the effort to meet new people especially those unlike you. It not only exposes you to different cultures and
alternative ways of doing things, it broadens your horizons.
Be yourself.
The next most tiresome thing after having no opinions is trying to be something you're not.
Molding yourself in order to fit in, or be accepted, usually backfires.
Since each of us is unique,
expressing that uniqueness is what makes us interesting. Attempting to
be a carbon copy of someone else not only falls flat, but reveals a lack of
authenticity.
Have a positive
outlook and attitude.
Who wants to be around people who are negative, complain a
lot, or have nothing good to say? In fact, most of us run when we see
them coming. Instead, be the kind of upbeat person who lights up a room with
your energy when you enter it. Do it by looking for the best in people and
things. Smile warmly, spread good cheer, and enliven others with
your presence.
Be fun and see the humorous side of life.
Everyone enjoys the company of someone who makes them laugh or smile.
Look for the humorous
or quirky side in a situation - there always is one. When you are fun
and lighthearted people are naturally attracted to you.
Be supportive of others.
Being supportive is probably the most endearing quality you can integrate
into your personality. Just as you yourself welcome it,
be the support
for others when they need it. We all love a cheerleader in our
corner; someone
who is encouraging, believes in us and helps pick us up when we're
down.
Have Integrity and treat people with respect.
Being honest and true to your word will bring you the
admiration, respect and gratitude of others. Nothing improves a person's
personality more than integrity
and respect - respect for others, as well as respect for yourself.
We humans have the power and ability to shape our personalities
however we wish. When we develop ourselves to be all
that we can be, we contribute to our own, as well as, to the
happiness of others.
Contrary
to what you may believe, you can 
