The "personality" is the typical pattern of thinking,
feeling, and behaviors that make a person unique.
When we say that someone has a "good personality" we mean
that they are likeable, pleasant to be around, and good to socialize
with.
Everyone wants to be attractive to others. Having a good
personality helps - probably even more so than good looks.
While we can improve our looks to only a certain extent, we can
work on improving the personality as much as we want.
Here are some ways in which we can
accomplish this:
Be a better listener.
Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis was considered one of the most
charming women in the world because she cultivated the skill of
being an exceptional listener. She would look a person in the eyes
and hang on their every word. Nothing is more appealing than having
someone listening to you intently and making you feel like you're
the only person in the world.
Read More and Expand Your Interests.
The more you read and interests you have, the more interesting
you are to others. It also gives you the opportunity to meet people
and share or exchange your views with them.
Be a good conversationalist.
This relates to how much you read and know. Once you have
much to contribute, learn how to talk about it with others. We can't know everything, so it's refreshing to learn about things we
don't have time to read about from others. If you're shy join a
group like Toastmasters that encourages you to talk about what you
know.
Have an Opinion.
There's nothing more tiresome than trying to talk to
someone who has no opinion on anything. A conversation has nowhere
to go if you have nothing to expound on. When you have a differing
opinion, it makes you that much more interesting and stimulating to
be around (unless you're a know-it-all, of course). A unique outlook
expands everyone's perspective.
Meet New People.
Make the effort to meet new people especially those different
from you. It not only exposes you to different cultures and
alternate ways of doing things, it broadens your horizons.
Be yourself.
The next most tiresome thing after having no opinions is to
try and be something you're not. Trying to mold yourself to fit in
and be accepted usually backfires. Everyone is unique
and expressing that uniqueness is what makes us interesting. If we
try to be a carbon copy of someone else, the lack of genuineness
comes across.
Have a positive
outlook and attitude.
No one wants to be around people who are negative, complain a
lot, or have nothing good to say. In fact most of us run when we see
them coming. Be the kind of upbeat person that lights up a room with
your energy. You can do this by looking for the best in people and
things.
Be fun and see the humorous side of life.
We all like to be around someone who makes us laugh or smile.
Look for the humorous
or quirky side in situations. There always is one. When you are fun
and lighthearted people are naturally attracted to you.
Be supportive of others.
This is probably the most endearing quality you can integrate
into your personality. Just as you welcome it when you receive it,
be the support
for others when they need it. Everyone wants a cheerleader, someone
who encourages and believes in them, in their corner.
Have Integrity and treat people with respect.
Be honest and true to your word and you will have the
admiration and respect of others. Respect others and you will have
their attention and gratitude. Nothing improves a person's
personality more than integrity
and respect - respect for others as well as respect for yourself.
As humans we have the power and ability to shape our personalities
however we wish. When we strive to develop them to encompass all
that we can be, we contribute to others and our own happiness.