In our culture today much emphasis is placed on looks, sex appeal
and being youthful. Many individuals spend a disproportionate amount
of time working on their outer packages. They go to great lengths to
be fashionable and trendy as well as making sure they are seen at the
latest "in" places.
when little or no effort is being made to develop the intellect or an interesting
personality, many good-looking young men and women come across as
being flighty and uninformed, as well as self-centered and
Evidence of this unhealthy trend can be witnessed in the behavior
of some of today's young celebrities and pop stars who often serve as role
models (whether we like it or not) for our children. We are bombarded
daily with news of their antics where they engage in self-indulgent
and often irresponsible behavior. Some of them end up in a rehab
which quite often doesn't address the real problem.
Although physical attraction is very helpful in the preservation of
our species, evolution has come a long way in giving us more than
solely our appearance to attract each other.
For a solid, meaningful relationship
to develop between two parties they must have more to contribute to
each other beyond their initial physical attraction.
When two people have little in common except for their good looks,
there is virtually no place for a relationship to go. They must enjoy
each other as individuals and be able to develop a bond or friendship.
There must be substance, shared interests, willingness to grow, and
So what's the answer?
Become someone whose company others seek. Have something meaningful
to contribute. Your will enrich your own, as well as the lives