it happens to be, overcoming
can be challenging, but when conquered, very
Fear is an emotion experienced in anticipation of some specific pain or
danger and is usually accompanied by a desire to flee or fight. It can
be real, or imagined.
It is certainly not always a bad thing. When fear serves as a warning
signal for impending danger or a life-threatening situation, it is
necessary and life preserving. If we didn't feel it in certain
situations we wouldn't react appropriately and we'd put ourselves at
If a fear is imagined or irrational, it can be paralyzing and hold us
back from living life fully and productively. Many imagined fears, such
as fear of rejection, looking foolish, or
are the types of fears we must learn to manage and
overcome. If we let them contro
l our lives, we would never venture
forth or strive to become all that we can be.
are, of course, some fears that our having them, or not, doesn't affect
our lives. For example, if someone has a fear of public speaking, yet
has no need, intention, or desire to speak publicly; trying to conquer
the fear is of no consequence. There is really no motivation,
or need, to work on conquering it.
If, on the other hand, the fear of public speaking will hold
one back from progressing in their career, or getting ahead in any way,
then it's time to work on getting rid of it.
Strategies for Overcoming Fear
- Acknowledge the fear. Whether
it's imagined or real, the first step in overcoming fear is to admit
that it exists. We all have fears; it's human nature. Denying or
ignoring them doesn't make them go away.
- Analyze it. Where does it come
from? Is it real or imagined? Can it be put in a different context? For
instance if you think it through to its logical conclusion, what's the
worst that can happen to you? Once you've determined what that might
be, ask yourself if you can deal with, or overcome it. More often than
not, once you go through the process of analyzing it, the fear isn't as
scary as you originally imagined.
- Face it. Allow yourself to feel
it, and then do it anyway. Act in spite of your fear and treat is as a
challenge for personal growth and an opportunity to become stronger.
- Be persistent. Do the thing you
fear over and over again. By doing it repeatedly it loses its power
over you and you become less vulnerable to it.
- Develop courage. Sometimes
answer may not be to conquer a particular fear; it may be to develop
courage. If you focus too much on any one fear instead of trying to
you may in fact, intensify it. By developing courage you build
self-confidence and resilience. You also build a healthy
approach towards facing all fear.
As Mark Twain said: "Courage is resistance to fear,
mastery of fear, not absence of fear."
Here is list of top 9 fears according to Forbes.com:
- Fear of bugs (especially spiders), mice, snakes, bats
- Fear of heights
- Fear of water (drowning)
- Fear of public transportation
- Fear of storms
- Fear of closed spaces
- Fear of tunnels and bridges
- Fear of crowds
- Fear of public speaking
How many on this list can you count as your own? Decide which
ones you may want to work on, and then overcome your fears!
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