Patience is the ability to tolerate waiting, delay, or frustration
without becoming agitated or upset. It's the ability to be able to
control your emotions or impulses and proceed calmly when faced with
difficulties. It comes from the Latin word pati which means to
suffer, to endure, to bear.
Needless
to say, patience
does not come easily to most of us and it's probably harder now
to be patient than historically it has ever been.
In today's world of 'instant everything', technological
advancements and readily available credit have allowed us to obtain,
experience, and consume practically anything we want - almost
immediately.
Do we even need to be patient anymore?
Well, if we want to reach our
goals, have successful relationships
and achieve personal peace, the answer is a resounding yes!
Anything worthwhile and of importance cannot take place right away.
It takes time, dedication and effort to achieve; so even in this day
and age, patience is a virtue.
The Benefits of Developing
Patience
Reduces stress levels and makes you a happier, healthier
person.
When you learn and practice patience you don't get as angry, stressed or overwhelmed.
You are more in control of your
emotions and in a better position to deal with difficult situations with ease and poise.
This promotes longevity and makes you a happier, healthier person.
Results in better decision-making.
When you're patient you take the time to assess the
situation, see the big picture, and weigh any pros and cons. The
chances of making a big mistake lessen because you avoid making it
in haste. Taking the time to problem solve
requires patience and
deliberation.
Helps develop understanding, empathy and compassion.
You are automatically more understanding and compassionate
with others when you yourself are patient. Patient people take the
time to process what they go through and are able to determine what
it takes to overcome obstacles so they are more understanding of
others. This results in better, more fulfilling relationships with
spouses, friends, children and bosses.
Helps you understand and appreciate the process of growth.
As mentioned earlier anything worthwhile takes time and
effort to achieve. As the old saying goes "Rome wasn't built in
a day." Planning, growth, evaluation and measurement all take time,
and taking time takes patience.
Tips on How to Develop Patience
Take a day where you make patience your goal for the entire
day.
Make a concerted effort to take your time and think about
everything you do, be mindful and live
in the moment. At the end of the day, observe all the ways in
which you've made smarter decisions, got along better with others
and actually understood what took place. Learn to do it on a daily
basis. Developing patience is much like physical exercise because it
requires persistence and effort.
Slow down.
If you have the tendency to rush around and try to hurry
things up, want things done immediately and can't wait for things
to take their natural course, STOP. Take several deep breaths before
you act or make a move. For example, if you're in a long lineup at
the grocery store or in heavy traffic, make the decision to pause
and not get worked up. Do some isometrics, listen to the radio, or
just enjoy the view. Getting impatient won't make things move
along any faster, so why get worked up for nothing?
Practice delaying gratification.
When you want to reach for that dessert, second drink, or
buying your tenth pair of red shoes, stop and think about it first.
Maybe you don't need or want any of them that badly after all. You
can save yourself some money or added calories.
Practice thinking before you speak.
At times we blurt out the first thought that comes into our
heads without considering the consequences. If we're patient, pause
and go over what we want to say, we can avoid hurting or offending
others.
Situations for which patience is a
must:
✓ Reaching most goals
✓ Losing weight
✓ Having a baby
✓ Bodybuilding
✓ Becoming a professional career person such as a doctor,
lawyer, engineer
✓ Becoming a top athlete
✓ Becoming a virtuoso in any musical field
✓ The healing of any wounds or illnesses
✓ Getting over loss or tragedy
Patience is definitely a valuable character trait
to develop. It
may appear to be passive, however it is an active, purposeful and
necessary form of self-discipline. Without patience many of our
actions would be counter-productive and ultimately much time and
energy would be wasted spinning our wheels. Surely, patience is a
time-tested virtue.