is how you view yourself. How you view yourself, determines how you will experience life. If
you see yourself in a positive and healthy light, your life experiences
will be positive and healthy. It doesn't mean, of course, that your
life will be free of challenges and adversity, just that you will have
a healthier approach to dealing with them. If your opinion of yourself is shaky and
fragile, you will find life's challenges overwhelming and at times, insurmountable.
What is your self-concept?
It is the understanding and knowledge you have of your own
existence and how you see yourself in relation to others and to
In order to possess a positive or healthy self-concept you must:
Be True to yourself
Today we live in an increasingly complex and multifaceted world. In order to meet the challenges
we now face, it is more important than ever to build a solid
personal foundation. A foundation consisting of self-knowledge, self-love and
To be sure, a healthy self-concept
is more than having high self-esteem. While high self-esteem
is important, the term itself can be misleading since self-esteem is
largely based on your 'feelings' of self-worth and encompasses your 'beliefs'
about being valuable and capable. It consists of your self-image, either
positive or negative, at an emotional level.
When based on emotion, self-esteem can be wavering and
vulnerable to threats. Likewise, if it's obtained mostly from external factors, such as an attractive
physical appearance, or being popular, you can feel on top of the
world one day, and find yourself disillusioned or disappointed on the
Therefore, a healthy self-concept must derive from within. Instead of
being dependent upon validation from external sources, or the wavering opinions of
others, self-esteem must result from self-reflection, self-analysis
What constitutes a healthy self-concept?
The ability to know
yourself; to be able to assess your strengths, weaknesses,
talents and potential.
The ability to love
and accept yourself as you are, knowing that you can improve
and develop any aspects of yourself that you choose.
The ability to take responsibility for your choices and actions.
Developing a healthy self-concept takes deliberate planning and concentrated effort.
It takes acknowledging your intrinsic value as a human being, and then
working to acquire the skills needed to confront the many
challenges and adversities we encounter in life.
When you posses a healthy self-concept, nothing can rattle you,
or take you off your stride. You are
confident, poised, and assured because you
know you are equipped to handle whatever comes your way.