A
well
balanced life is essential for personal effectiveness, peace of
mind and living
well. Whether we work, go to school, are retired or not, we all
have responsibilities.
There is always someone or something to answer to. There are things
we want to do and things we must do.
The challenge is to balance what we must do with what we enjoy and
want to do. This is not always easy. If, however, we are unable to
reduce stress and manage a well balanced life there can be physical
and/or emotional
health consequences to contend with.
Tips for living a well balanced life:
Take care of and nurture yourself.
You cannot accomplish anything if you're unhealthy. Get
plenty of rest, exercise and eat properly. Many people think they
can burn the candle at both ends, eat junk food, get very little
exercise and still function adequately. You may be able to get
away with this for a while if you're quite young, however, at
some point this type of life style will catch up with the best of
us. Burnout is a real possibility.
You may want to set aside time each day for an activity that
you enjoy, such as walking, working out or listening to music.
Or, allow yourself to unwind after a hectic day by reading,
meditating or taking a nice hot bath.
Know what your priorities are.
Balance doesn't mean do everything you can. Examine your values
and decide what's important to you, then set your boundaries.
You may be in the process of building a career, starting a family
or going to school. Depending on what stage you're at in your
life, your focus and energies will be different. Try not to become
overwhelmed by juggling too many big projects in your life at
once. Maybe planning a wedding is not a good idea when you're
studying for the bar exam. Nor, is starting a family when you are
unsure about your career direction or relationship status. Not
knowing what you want and trying to do everything at once can be a
recipe for disaster instead of the road to leading a well balanced
life. Try not to bite off more than you can chew.
Create an efficient mindset.
Be organized and plan ahead. Take time at the beginning of each
week to assess what needs to be done. Make a to-do list in a
planner or calendar for upcoming appointments, exams to write or
study for, or meetings to attend. Be sure to assign recreation and
quality time for yourself and your family as well. Taking time to
connect with family and friends will recharge your batteries and
make you more efficient in the long run.
Expect the unexpected.
Rather
than get stressed and upset, allow yourself to roll with the
punches when something you have no control over happens. You may
get stuck in traffic, your computer could crash or your child
could get sick with the chickenpox. Stuff happens. We've all
experienced the unexpected. If you accept
that anything can happen at any time, it's less likely it throw
you off your stride when it does. Be able to adjust your game
plan.
Note also, that there are times when achieving balance may not
be possible. For instance, you may have a family or career crisis
that needs your immediate and undivided attention. It may require
an exceptional amount of your time and resources. When that
happens, do whatever it takes and when things go back to normal
take time to refresh and rejuvenate yourself.
Maintain a positive
mental attitude.
Begin each day with the intention of
making the best and most of it. It may not always go as planned,
but it can go more smoothly if you put it in perspective.
Part of living a well-balanced life is learning how to deal with
adversity, unforeseen events and uncertainty. If you practice not
letting things get to you, you will not only learn to live a well
balanced and less stressful life, you will learn to live in and
savor the moment.
Once you've done everything you can within your control, let
your life unfold. Be prepared for the future, but don't worry
about it.
While we can't anticipate and plan for everything in our lives,
we can decide how, where and when to concentrate our energies. This
may require some critical
thinking and problem
solving, but in the end it will lead to much less stress and a
well balanced life.