Patience & Tips on How to Develop It
, a challenge for most of
us, is the ability to tolerate waiting, delay, or frustration without
becoming agitated or upset. It is being able to control your emotions
or impulses and proceed calmly when faced with difficult or frustrating
The word patience is derived from the Latin word pati
which means to suffer, to endure, to bear.
Needless to say, patience is not easy to attain and it's
probably harder now to achieve than ever before. In today's world of
'instant everything', technological advancements and readily available
credit have allowed us to obtain, experience, and consume practically
anything we want - almost immediately. Do we even need to be patient
Well, if we want to reach our goals, have successful
relationships and achieve personal peace, the answer is a
Anything worthwhile and of importance cannot take place right
away. It takes time, dedication and effort to achieve; so even in this
day and age, patience is a virtue.
The Benefits of Developing Patience
- Reduces stress levels and makes you a happier,
healthier person. When you learn and practice patience you
don't get as angry, stressed or overwhelmed.
You are more in control of your emotions and in a better position to
deal with difficult situations with ease and poise.This promotes
longevity and makes you a happier, healthier person.
- Results in better decision-making. When
you're patient you take the time to assess the situation, see the big
picture, and weigh any pros and cons. The chances of making a big
mistake lessen because you avoid making it in haste. Taking the time to
problem solve requires patience
- Helps develop understanding, empathy and
compassion. You are automatically more understanding and
compassionate with others when you yourself are patient. Patient people
take the time to process what they go through and are able to determine
what it takes to overcome obstacles so they are more understanding of
others. This results in better, more fulfilling relationships with
spouses, friends, children and bosses.
- Helps you understand and appreciate the process of
growth. As mentioned earlier anything worthwhile takes time
and effort to achieve. As the old saying goes "Rome wasn't built in a
day." Planning, growth, evaluation and measurement all take time, and
taking time takes patience.
Tips on How to Develop Patience
- Take a day where you make patience your goal for
the entire day. Make a concerted effort to take your time and
think about everything you do, be mindful and live in the moment. At the end of the day,
observe all the ways in which you've made smarter decisions,
got along better with others and actually understood what took place.
Learn to do it on a daily basis. Developing patience is much like
physical exercise because it requires persistence and effort.
- Slow down. If you have the tendency to
rush around and try to hurry things up, want things done immediately
and can't wait for things to take their natural course, STOP. Take
several deep breaths before you act or make a move. For example, if
you're in a long lineup at the grocery store or in heavy traffic, make
the decision to pause and not get worked up. Do some isometrics, listen
to the radio, or just enjoy the view. Getting impatient won't make
things move along any faster, so why get worked up for nothing?
- Practice delaying gratification. When
you want to reach for that dessert, second drink, or buying your tenth
pair of red shoes, stop and think about it first. Maybe you don't need
or want any of them that badly after all. You can save yourself some
money or added calories.
- Practice thinking before you speak. At
times we blurt out the first thought that comes into our heads without
considering the consequences. If we're patient, pause and go over what
we want to say, we can avoid hurting or offending others.
Situations for which patience is a must:
✔ Reaching most goals
✔ Losing weight
✔ Having a baby
✔ Becoming a professional career person such as
doctor, lawyer, engineer
✔ Becoming a top athlete
✔ Becoming a virtuoso in any musical field
✔ The healing of any wounds or illnesses
✔ Getting over loss or tragedy
Patience is definitely a valuable character trait
to develop. It
may appear to be passive, however it is an active, purposeful and
necessary form of self-discipline
. Without patience
many of our actions would be counter-productive and ultimately much
time and energy would be wasted spinning our wheels. Surely, patience
is a time-tested virtue.
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