Patience & Tips on How to Develop It
a challenge for most of us, is the ability to tolerate waiting,
delay, or frustration without becoming agitated or upset. It is
being able to control your emotions or impulses and proceed calmly
when faced with difficult or frustrating situations. It comes from
the Latin word pati
which means to suffer, to endure, to
Needless to say, patience is not easy to attain and it's probably
harder now to achieve than ever before. In today's world of
'instant everything', technological advancements and readily
available credit have allowed us to obtain, experience, and
consume practically anything we want - almost immediately. Do we
even need to be patient anymore?
Well, if we want to reach our goals, have successful
relationships and achieve personal peace, the answer is a
Anything worthwhile and of importance cannot take place right
away. It takes time, dedication and effort to achieve; so even in
this day and age, patience is a virtue.
The Benefits of Developing Patience
- Reduces stress levels and makes you a happier, healthier
person. When you learn and practice patience you don't get
as angry, stressed or overwhelmed. You
are more in control of your emotions and in a better position to
deal with difficult situations with ease and poise.This promotes
longevity and makes you a happier, healthier person.
- Results in better decision-making. When you're patient
you take the time to assess the situation, see the big picture,
and weigh any pros and cons. The chances of making a big mistake
lessen because you avoid making it in haste. Taking the time to
problem solve requires patience
- Helps develop understanding, empathy and compassion.
You are automatically more understanding and compassionate with
others when you yourself are patient. Patient people take the
time to process what they go through and are able to determine
what it takes to overcome obstacles so they are more
understanding of others. This results in better, more fulfilling
relationships with spouses, friends, children and bosses.
- Helps you understand and appreciate the process of growth.
As mentioned earlier anything worthwhile takes time and effort
to achieve. As the old saying goes "Rome wasn't built in a day."
Planning, growth, evaluation and measurement all take time, and
taking time takes patience.
Tips on How to Develop Patience
- Take a day where you make patience your goal for the entire
day. Make a concerted effort to take your time and
think about everything you do, be mindful and live in the moment. At the end of the
day, observe all the ways in which you've made smarter
decisions, got along better with others and actually understood
what took place. Learn to do it on a daily basis. Developing
patience is much like physical exercise because it requires
persistence and effort.
- Slow down. If you have the tendency to rush around and
try to hurry things up, want things done immediately and can't
wait for things to take their natural course, STOP. Take several
deep breaths before you act or make a move. For example, if
you're in a long lineup at the grocery store or in heavy
traffic, make the decision to pause and not get worked up. Do
some isometrics, listen to the radio, or just enjoy the view.
Getting impatient won't make things move along any faster, so
why get worked up for nothing?
- Practice delaying gratification. When you want to reach
for that dessert, second drink, or buying your tenth pair of red
shoes, stop and think about it first. Maybe you don't need or
want any of them that badly after all. You can save yourself
some money or added calories.
- Practice thinking before you speak. At times we blurt
out the first thought that comes into our heads without
considering the consequences. If we're patient, pause and go
over what we want to say, we can avoid hurting or offending
Situations for which patience is a must:
✔ Reaching most goals
✔ Losing weight
✔ Having a baby
✔ Becoming a professional career person such as
doctor, lawyer, engineer
✔ Becoming a top athlete
✔ Becoming a virtuoso in any musical field
✔ The healing of any wounds or illnesses
✔ Getting over loss or tragedy
Patience is definitely a valuable character trait
to develop. It may
appear to be passive, however it is an active, purposeful and
necessary form of self-discipline
. Without patience many of our
actions would be counter-productive and ultimately much time and
energy would be wasted spinning our wheels. Surely, patience is a
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