Quick Fixes Don't Work in
Quick fixes don't work in personal
Most of us don't want to hear this, but - there are no quick fixes
or shortcuts to personal
development - or to anything else worthwhile, for that matter.
The road to bettering ourselves is a long continuous one that
requires time, commitment, and self-discipline
Of course, it's human nature to look for the quickest, easiest
way to get what we want.
We tend to look for the one size fits all solution to our
We want to find the book, the DVD, or program that will fix us
and make everything all right - overnight - and we want it pronto!
Well here's the reality - apart from being improbable and
unrealistic, most things just don't work that way.
One of the reasons they don't is that quick fixes are neither
lasting nor sustainable. A quick fix for any problem is only meant
to hold things together until an effective long-term solution is
found. It's merely the proverbial band-aid.
Making positive lasting change in
your life takes time and this is why:
- A new habit takes at least 21 days of consistent effort to
set in - When we try to change a behavior/habit or
implement a new one, it takes at least 21 days of consistent
repetitive behavior for it to set in. If it happens to be an
addiction, it could take as long as 35 days, or more. No quick
fix is designed to change habits.
- Habituation and homeostasis factors - Habituation
refers to the things we do daily without having to think about
doing them. Another way to put it is 'getting used to things'.
Homeostasis, a term used mostly in the context of biology,
is a regulatory function that keeps an organism stable. An
example would be when temperatures outdoors fall or rise
significantly, our body temperature remains stable.
Psychological homeostasis works similarly in that it keeps
you fixed in the same habits or mindsets whether they are
working for you or not. That is why it's so hard to change a
Habituation and homeostasis, while they are necessary
mechanisms so that you don't have to rethink how to do
everything every single time you go to do it, they make it
very difficult for quick fixes or behavior changes to take
- Certain endeavors rely on ongoing repetitious strategies in
order to take effect - If you want to lose weight
permanently, or if you intend on having successful
relationships, plan to work on it for the long haul. For
instance, if you want to lose 20 pounds of weight, you cannot do
it by eating little and well for only one day. Instead, you
would have to implement a plan whereby you consume and expend a
set amount of calories consistently over a given period of time.
Then the weight would come off slowly and steadily.
Likewise, to maintain a good relationship, you couldn't be
pleasant and agreeable with someone for one or two days and
then expect to have an understanding or connection. It would
take days, months, sometimes even years to build a trusting,
mutually fulfilling relationship. It cannot happen overnight.
Only by working on goals slowly and steadily can you achieve
lasting and rewarding results. By contrast crash dieting,
blitzing, cramming, or bombarding (quick fixes) will derail
- It takes hard work and commitment - How many times
have we started a new project, exercise routine, or diet plan
bursting with energy and enthusiasm only to see wane and wither
away? Too many, I’m sorry to say.
The truth is, it isn’t easy to stay focused and committed,
which is why, once again, we look for a quick fix instead of
buckling down and getting on with it. If we recognize that it
will take time, hard work and continued dedication to develop
and improve ourselves, we would save a lot of time and
Examples where quick fixes have
Who doesn't want to be rich?
➜ In 1993 Suzanne Mullins won $4.2 million in the Virginia lottery.
She subsequently became deeply in debt to a company that lent her
money using the winnings as collateral. What she came to realize is
that in our culture we tend to believe that money solves all
problems and if people had more of it their troubles would be over.
Unfortunately, when money is acquired quickly and suddenly it can
cause more problems than it solves.
➜ Evelyn Adams won the New Jersey lottery twice (1985, 1986)
amounting to approximately $5.4 million. Today the money is gone and
Adams lives in a trailer.
➜ William Post won $16.2 million in the Pennsylvania lottery in 1988
but now lives on his Social Security check. "I wish it never
happened. It was totally a nightmare," says Post.
➜ Susan Bradley, a financial planner who wrote Sudden Money:
Managing a Financial Windfall
, says "People think windfalls
are about money. But it's really all about change and transition ...
and people need time to adjust." (i.e. quick fixes do not last, nor
do they actually fix anything).
What happens when we crash diet to lose weight quickly?
Although much has been written lately about how losing weight
quickly is unhealthy and unproductive many still attempt it. Losing
weight too quickly, like any sudden change to your body, is
dangerous. We know that fad diets, diet pills, and fasting indeed
induce rapid weight loss, however they also cause you to lose muscle
mass and may injure the heart and other vital organs in the process.
The answer? Instead of aiming for an overnight miracle (quick fix),
opt for a sensible nutritious eating plan as well as a realistic
The bottom line is that personal development or self-improvement is
hard work! It takes time, consistent effort, focus, discipline, and
patience. Remember the work you do daily, monthly, and yearly
culminates in a rewarding, successful outcome.
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