If you see yourself in a positive and healthy light, your life experiences will be positive and healthy.
It doesn't mean, of course, that your life will be free of
challenges and adversity, just that you will
have a healthier approach to dealing with them.
If your opinion of yourself is shaky and fragile, you will find life's challenges overwhelming and at times, insurmountable.
It is the understanding and knowledge you have of your own existence and how you see yourself in relation to others and to your surroundings.
In order to possess a positive or healthy self-concept you must:
Today we live in an increasingly complex and multifaceted world. In order to meet the challenges we now face, it is more important than ever to build a solid personal foundation. A foundation consisting of self-knowledge, self-love and self-confidence.
To be sure, a healthy self-concept is more than having high self-esteem. While high self-esteem is important, the term itself can be misleading since self-esteem is largely based on your 'feelings' of self-worth and encompasses your 'beliefs' about being valuable and capable. It consists of your self-image, either positive or negative, at an emotional level.
When based on emotion, self-esteem can be wavering and vulnerable to threats. Likewise, if it's obtained mostly from external factors, such as an attractive physical appearance, or being popular, you can feel on top of the world one day, and find yourself disillusioned or disappointed on the next.
Therefore, a healthy self-concept must derive from within. Instead of being dependent upon validation from external sources, or the wavering opinions of others, self-esteem must result from self-reflection, self-analysis and self-acceptance.
Developing a healthy self-concept takes deliberate planning and concentrated effort. It takes acknowledging your intrinsic value as a human being, and then working to acquire the skills needed to confront the many challenges and adversities we encounter in life.
When you posses a healthy self-concept, nothing can rattle you, or take you off your stride. You are confident,poised, and assured because you know you are equipped to handle whatever comes your way.